Top 5 Things Not to Say to Your Kids at the Grocery Store

Taking kids to the grocery store can feel like an adventure—or a test of patience. It’s easy to say things out of frustration when you’re trying to get through your shopping list while dealing with their endless requests. But the way we talk to our kids in these moments matters. Certain phrases can create unnecessary anxiety or shut down their curiosity when we could be teaching them something valuable instead.

Here are 5 things not to say to your kids at the grocery store—and some better ways to handle those situations:

1. "We can’t afford that."

It’s tempting to use this as a quick way to say no, but it can make kids worry about money or feel like they can’t ask questions.

Try this instead:
“That’s not in our budget today, but maybe we can plan for it another time.” This helps them understand that money is about choices and planning, not just limitations.

2. "Stop asking for things!"

We’ve all been there—your child points to every shiny package or sugary treat, and it feels like they’ll never stop. But shutting them down completely can miss an opportunity to teach them about priorities.

Try this instead:
“We’re sticking to our list today, but we can talk about treats for next time.” Give them opportunities to earn money by helping out around the house.

3. "Put that back; it’s too expensive."

While it’s important to teach kids about cost, saying this without context can make them feel bad or confused.

Try this instead:
“Let’s see if there’s something similar that fits our budget.” This shifts the focus to problem-solving and helps them learn to compare prices.

4. "We’ll buy it if you behave."

It’s easy to offer this as a way to keep them in line, but it can send the wrong message. Kids might start to see good behavior as something that’s always rewarded with material things.

Try this instead:
“Let’s pick one thing together that works for our plan today.” Children will feel involved without tying their behavior to getting something.

5. "No, because I said so."

This one is a classic, but it can make kids feel dismissed and take away the chance for a real conversation.

Try this instead:
“Let me explain why this isn’t a good choice today, and we can decide together next time.” Children will understand the reasoning behind decisions and feel included in the process.

Next time you’re at the store, try turning their requests into teachable moments. You might be surprised at how much they can learn—and how much smoother your shopping trip can go!

What are your go-to strategies for handling grocery store meltdowns or endless questions? Share your tips in the comments below!